The book of Exodus is the second book of the Bible and it brilliantly describes the exodus, which includes the Israelites’ deliverance from slavery in Egypt through the hand of God. Are you ready to leave behind the things that no longer serve you? Are you ready to leave a false and antiquated belief that you are not good enough?
I recently watched the inspirational documentary “Becoming” as it chronicles an intimate look into the life of former First Lady Michelle Obama on her sold out arena book tour. She is an incredible beacon of light for the younger generation. She enjoys mentoring youths and generally being motivational. Her refuse to lose attitude is infectious. My favorite quote by her is “When they go low, we go high.” Michelle Obama made decisions based on the outcomes she wanted, not based on her emotions. We share the sentiment that powerful women manage their emotions.
Here are five unusual things that I learned from Michelle Obama:
Never stoop to the level of your adversaries. “When they go low, we go high.” Michelle Obama
Be optimistic without being gullible. “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.” John F. Kennedy
Don’t be afraid to use your voice. “Confidence his everything.” Nicole Porter
Be resilient. “The greatest navigators owe their reputation to showers and storms.” Epicurus
Your past does not determine your future. “Two men look out the same prison bars: one sees mud and the other sees stars.” Frederick Langbridge
To summarize, my deep admiration for the former First Lady Michelle Obama is everlasting. She is the epitome of class and great strength. To my forever First Lady, THANK YOU!!!!
“To change ourselves effectively, we first have to change our perceptions.” Stephen Covey
Phone vibrates with text message.
William: Hey Roxie! I miss you, what are you doing? Do you want to come over and watch Netflix and chill? (Wink, Wink)
Roxie: Nothing… bored. I’ll be there around 11pm.
Pushup bra? Check
Thong? Check
Fishnet stockings? Check
Stilettos? Check
Condoms? Check
Roxie takes one last look in the mirror at herself before rushing out the door.
Sis, aren’t you tired of using sex like a coupon at the grocery store – giving it up and receiving pennies and nickels in return? Aren’t you tired of watching woman after woman sleeping with men to just receive the crumbs of sloppy seconds? Aren’t you tired of wasting years of your precious time with a man hoping one day he will ask you to marry him?
Sis, if you’re not tired, I most definitely am exhausted! My heart truly breaks seeing ladies, both young and old, making the same mistakes with men over and over again. (Definition of insanity)
According to the Urban Dictionary, “Netflix and chill” is a slang term used as an euphemism for sexual activity, either as part of a romantic partnership or as casual sex or as a groupie invitation.
It would not come as a surprise to know that dating is synonymous with sleeping together. Both men and women are overly sexualized as result of living in a hook up culture.
Sex in the City is an American romantic comedy-drama television series. A sex columnist Carrie Bradshaw and her three friends, Samantha, Charlotte, and Miranda explore the dating scene in Manhattan. The first time when Carrie Bradshaw slept with Mr. Big everything changed between them. Sex for men is physical but for women is emotional. They ended up breaking up for the first time due to Mr. Big’s inability to be emotionally intimate with Carrie. This was the commencement of their on-and off-again relationship.
In the book The People factor, Van Moody says there is no such thing as a neutral relationship. Every relationship impacts you in some way. It either helps or hurts, builds up or tears down, brings you higher or lower. In other words, relationships are like elevators.
To be transparent, I used to be a woman that was extremely gulliable when it came to men. I naively took everything at face value. I didn’t vet and verify my platonic and romantic relationships. I once had a guy friend where the chemistry between us was electrifying, however, he was clear that he was not ready for a serious relationship. Consequently, the relationship quickly turned into friends-with-benefits because I thought that after giving it up, he would change his mind. I had aspirations that our relationship would have evolved into something more. Sadly, I ended up losing a friend.
A friend-with-benefits puts your relationship at risk. Sex has a tendency to shift your feelings. Its partly psychological as hormones are released during sex that make you bond with them and them with you on an emotional level. We are programmed by the hook up society in movies, music, Hollywood, etc to connect sex with love. Sex is not love and love is not sex. As a result, alot of women end up with soul ties.
If you’ve been hurt in love, having sex with a friend can be even more dangeous because you’ve not taking the time to heal before you deal. When you want something badly its easy to convince yourself that everything is fine when in reality you’re not.
To summarize, there is absolutely no benefit with having sex with a friend. A friend-with-benefits is typically not your ideal person. Its someone that’s being used to pass time until someone better comes along. A placeholder to be exact. You will end up losing in the end. A friend-with-benefits situation puts you in a position to be far more emotionally involved, even when you don’t plan to. In the end, it will ruin your friendship.
Can We Talk? (And Not Text?) That is the question in this blog. In this dispensation, we are unequivocally living in the era of texting, everyone is sending messages. You’ve probably done it in the last hour, and will most likely text again soon.
Texting is for small talks. You will see messages such as: Hey, what are you doing? Sweetie, how was your day? Texting could become a barrier to creating meaningful healthy relationship with other people.
In the 80s, the only way to interact with friends was face-to-face, in real time. Instead of depending on texts, Facebook messenger, Instagram DMS, or SnapChat, your friends were people that you actually knew and saw on a daily basis. We actually knew our friends phone numbers by heart. Without smartphones devices doing the work for us.
A 2014 Gallup poll confirmed a truth that text messages now outrank phone calls as a dominant form of communication among Millennials. Between 37% and 39% of all Americans said they used each of these “alot” on the day prior to being interviewed. That compares with less than 10% of the population who said they used a home landline.
It can be easier to communicate via text conversation because there is no eye to eye contact, however, you can’t appropriately gauge your chemistry and connection because some people can be disingenuous. Some may claim that they are not good conversationists but are better at texting. I think this is the problem, just because everyone is doing it, doesn’t make it legit, it makes it commonplace and people are getting a false sense of security building their relationships mainly on texting.
Texting is NOT dating. I repeat, texting is NOT dating.
In the “I love you, Now Die: The Commonwealth v. Michelle Carter” Documentary. Michelle Carter was convicted for sending aggressive texts to her boyfriend encouraging suicide before he was found dead by suicide in his car. Their relationship was conducted entirely via text messages. When one partner texts the other excessively, this could indicate that one partner is clingy and needy.
It should not be used as a conflict resolution tool. Instead arrange a time to talk to one another in person.
In conclusion, when it comes to building romantic or platonic realtionship, don’t rely on text messaging to be your main form of communication.
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